I was sixteen when I realised I was falling in love with you. I didn’t know a single thing about you, but I fell anyway.
I was seventeen when I realised that you were completely different than what I imagined you to be. It changed nothing, I was still hopelessly in love with you.
I was eighteen when you first broke my heart. I had never experienced heartbreak before and when it happened, it felt like you’d taken a knife and stabbed it right through my chest and ribcage and into that beating thing, and silenced its rhythmatic thump-thump forever.
I was eighteen when it felt like the world had stopped spinning, when it felt like I was in a conscious coma so bad, I’d never feel alive again.
I was eighteen when I realised I needed to be wise beyond my years and learn to pick up the broken parts of myself, without any help from anyone.
I was eighteen and a half when I realised that healing was a process I was starting to get the hang off, when you stepped back into my life like nothing had ever happened.
I was eighteen and a half when I realised that you were bound to break my heart, again. And that I was gonna let you do it. Again.
You know why? Because even though thinking about you made my heart ache and my pillow wet with tears, I loved you with all my heart and that’s the saddest truth.
I was eighteen and a half when you decided to leave. Yet again. The blow this time was definitely not as shocking as the first one, but it was still pretty hard to come to terms with. I didn’t beg you to stay this time. I let you go.
I tried to be happy, I really did. I jumped into things and immersed myself in activities which would keep me busy enough to stop me from thinking about you, but you were always at the back of my mind.
I was eighteen and a half when you asked for another chance. And I let you have it. And that, was the beginning of the end.
I was nineteen years of complete candour when I told you how I felt about you. How I had always felt about you. But you? You were lying when you said you felt it too.
I was ecstatic. Now that I reminisce, you were probably unbothered.
I should have known. I should have been more inclined to trust that part of my heart which always warned me of the things that always seemed to be off kilter with the way you expressed your love. Or rather, didn’t.
I was so convinced that the Universe wanted us together and that you were just terrible at talking feelings, that I always brushed it off. When you asked me to trust in you, in your love for me, I did. Blindly.
I was so oblivious to the truth behind your lies that I never thought I’ll regret trusting you.
I take another chance, take a fall, take a shot from you
And I need you like a heart needs a beat, its not from you
I loved you with a fire red
Now it’s turning blue
And you say sorry like the Angel
Heaven let me think was you
I was overwhelmed by the fact that you told me you felt it too, that I never thought of any alternatives. I was so madly invested in the idea of a future together, that it never occurred to me that you weren’t even going to allow yourself to consider it a possibility.
It never was. It never will be.
And now, you’ve gone and done it again. Kudos to you, you always manage to break those parts of me, I didn’t know could be broken, the brittle ones I thought had manged to somehow escape the first two times around. Well done, player. Well done.
I guess you must be lucky, cause this time you’ve hit all the right spots, even the ones you haven’t been aiming for.
You thought it would somehow be okay to drop a bomb on me out of nowhere, and that I’d make myself available to you at your every beck and call, but this time, you’re wrong.
It’s a little different this time. It’s changed.
When you told me that you had never loved me late one night, that part of me which always worshipped you broke. Into a multi million pieces of shattered love.
When you let your candour flow through the phone, I silently let my tears fall. When you told me of all those times you held the truth to yourself, I felt your words carving wounds into the place that’s supposed to hold my heart.
When you told me that you were doing it for me, I almost laughed at the absurdity of it all.
But I’m afraid
That’s its too late to apologize
It’s too late…
I had come so close to giving up and leaving you by myself, but just the mere thought of it always managed to inflict more pain in me than it would ever in you.
The idea of me leaving you, someone I’ve treasured ever since I’ve laid my eyes on, someone I adored without reason, someone I gave every inch of my heart to, was too painful to bear.
But all of this seemed to vanish the moment you let yourself be honest.
But that’s not your fault. The heart wants what it wants and if yours didn’t beat for mine, I won’t blame you.
But I do blame myself. For letting myself be carried away in love, for letting myself fall without thinking twice, for giving so much of me to you that now you’re gone, there seems to be nothing left of me.
The truth hurts. More than it should.
But it’s better than being in an illusion.
So thank you. For playing your part and doing it with such finesse, I’m stunned.
I have always been stunned by the person you are. So rare, so perfect. I’m in awe of you. And I still believe that you’re one of a kind, that you’re so much more than what you perceive of yourself. I have great taste. But sadly, terrible instincts.
Maybe I fell too hard, too fast, too deep. But I learned to swim, to keep my head above water and to hold my own, which I couldn’t have, weren’t it for you.
I fell in love with you even before I knew your name.
I made a home for you in my heart, not knowing you never wanted it.
And now, as I’m slowly starting to consciously unlove you at my own pace, I realise I’m good at this.
I’m more at peace with you than I’ve been in a long time. I’m more understanding of the way you seem to function, of the way you could never seem to love me like I wished you would. It’s starting to make better sense.
I was not wrong to have expectations from you, afterall you did lead me on to believe you loved me. But I was wrong to not realise the truth by myself. I should have known sooner.
But I guess everything happens at the right time, not the time when we want it to happen.
Just like the fact that we will eventually end up with the person destined for us, unlike those we decide on.
You’re right in doing what you did, and now, I’m slowly starting to feel past the pain and see past the tears blocking my vision, to do what’s right on my part.
And that is to move on.
Doing so feels right this time. It’s like my heart is telling me its high time. And my heart and mind must have expanded overnight, to accommodate some space for love for someone other than you, for love for myself.
It feels like coming home after a long time.
For so long, I’ve held you in my heart that I’ve forgotten what it’s like in there. And now, as I’m slowly learning to make a home for myself in my heart, it feels just like it should. Like it was never broken in the first place. Like it never had replaced its owner, or held anyone other than me.
I feel whole.
And now, I’m slowly starting to glue the broken parts of myself back together, I’m slowly starting to undo the damage that’s been done in the name of love, I’m slowly starting to allow the love I needed , I’m slowly starting to love myself more.
And I’m slowly learning to forget what it felt like to love you.
I don’t regret anything.
I’m grateful of the little time in our lives that we spent with each other, blissfully in friendship.
But nothing lasts forever and knowing when to move on is wisdom.
I’m nineteen and a half now, and I’ve spent three years of my life secretly dedicating time and songs to a boy whose name started with the same letter as mine, but now when the night is still young and my heart still flutters at the mention of his name, I’m tempted to dial his number which I know by heart and to hear his voice again. I don’t though.
Instead I write this.
This is me letting you go.
Update: Reposted September 2023. Young me was too good and too dramatic 😅